My son will know how to make his own damn sandwich

In this house we do not acknowledge gender roles. We work together as a team. Jake and I are raising our daughter to be an independent woman who can check her own oil, change a tire, shovel, carry in wood, mow the lawn etc. Yes, I want her to eventually find a life partner who will help her with the “manly” parts of life, but I do not want her to need someone. Growing up my father made sure his “baby girl” could take care of herself. If my parents catered to my girliness I would have been lost during the first 5 months of my daughter’s life. It was just her and I in our little house. I would not have known what to do when the pipes froze, and the snow piled outside would have been much more intimidating. Instead of being scared I thrived, because I had confidence in myself. I was comfortable outside of the kitchen! When I met Jake he was attracted to my independence. He admired the fact that I could take care of myself and my daughter.

I think it is just as important for my son to have some “womanly” life skills. When he leaves the nest I want to know he can take care of himself. When the time comes for him to share his life and home with a woman I want her be his partner, not his mother.

Here is a small list of womanly chores my son will know how to do before he leaves the nest:

  1. Clean a bathroom: Why? Because I don’t piss down the front of the seat. I love my man, but I hate cleaning a toilet just as much as the next person. If everyone in the house has to take turns cleaning the John they will be more careful about their aim.
  2. Make his own damn sandwich: I want my son to know his way around the kitchen. I would like him to know how to make more than ramen noodle, and spaghetti. I want him to be able to pack his own lunch for work. Most likely he will be living on his own before he meets the woman of his dreams and as his mother I want to know he will be eating a balanced diet. Plus, every woman likes a man who can cook.
  3. Wash, dry, fold, and put away laundry: I used hear “Babe, I need a clean work shirt” all the time. Every time I answered the request with, “you know where the washer is”. Jake finally stopped asking, and started loading the washer if he was low on clean clothes. Yes, I primarily do the laundry, but sometimes I get behind (that’s what working full time, going to school and being a mom will do to you). I’ll save my son’s future wife a little training if he is already a pro at laundry.
  4. Do the dishes: Everyone in the family uses dishes, so everyone in the family should take turn doing the dishes. I want my son to be the bachelor with an empty sink, not one stacked high with dirty dishes. I can speak from personal experience, when I come home from a long day at work there is nothing sexier than my man in those pink dish gloves scrubbing away at the kitchen sink.

It’s not the 1950’s anymore.


4 thoughts on “My son will know how to make his own damn sandwich

  1. xNomaD says:

    I don’t quite know what it’s like to be married or raise a child, but I have come to the point in my life where I’ve begun to think of these types of things. Your writing has a humorous side to it, so that’s a great way to get the reader entertained while informing them on the facts.

    I may suggest offering some type of question or poll at the end of your article to give the reader something to discuss in the comments, however.

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  2. kimberlyawelch says:

    Loved this post. Your sense of humor shows in your blog writing, and I think that’s one of the best qualities a blog can have. I need to send my stepson over to your house — he’s almost 14 and can’t do anything on his own because he’s never been made to do anything. It drives me nuts, because I grew up similar to you, where i learned the girl and guy roles in the house, and started doing chores at a young age.

    Your funny ramblings and the colorful blog make this one of my favorites in the class. Thanks for the fun reads!


  3. chrisjwill84 says:

    What do I like best about your blog? It’s relateable and is written in a tone that makes me feel like I’m having a conversation with a friend rather than being lectured by a stranger. You don’t shy away from being real/honest, and definitely don’t sugar-coat anything. I think that this gives you a leg up on most other outlets on the web.

    My only criticism is that it would be nice to break up the content with some additional photos, videos or even subject-headers so that those trying to browse can easily pick out the topics you are writing about. You did a great job incorporating lists (my favorite) in several of your posts, but could make your blog a place for your readers to sound-off by giving them some additional content to respond to (questions, videos, etc..).

    Keep up the great work!


  4. Definitely Indecisive says:

    Excellent post Gonzo Mom. I must admit, I still haven’t successfully made a good pot of spaghetti and meatballs yet but after your article there’s hope. Seriously though, the premise of your post is very practical. We never know what curveballs life will throw our way. It is good to have enough independence to care for yourself. The light hearted nature of the articles tone is perfect for the subject matter. Again,mexcellent work.


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